Answered by: Maulana Muddasser Dhedhy
Question:
Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullah!
My husband out of anger has many times said behind my back that he will leave me.
never has he said it in front of me, he married his girlfriend but then got divorced, now he’s married again, I said once to leave me and he said ok.
is this divorce, what is the method of ruju?
بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيْم
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
Answer:
Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh,
Firstly, it is not necessary for the wife to be present when the husband divorces her. For example, he could divorce her in writing when she is not present. The divorce will apply the moment the husband wrote it and so will her iddah begin from the time of writing the divorce.[1]
Hence, when the husband said is his wife’s absence that he will leave his wife and he intended a divorce this will be considered to be a divorce.[2]
However, when the husband responds with ‘okay’ or ‘yes’ in response to the wife asking for him to leave her or to divorce, this will not constitute a divorce even if he intends to divorce her.[3]
In the particular situation of the questioner, given that the divorce has already come into effect when the husband said in his wife’s absence that he will leave her, if the iddah has already passed from that time onwards there will be no consideration for what the man has said latter in response to the woman asking for him to leave her as she is no longer his wife.
And Allah Ta’ala knows best.
Answered by Maulana Muddasser Dhedhy
Checked and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah
Darul Ifta Birmingham
[1] ثُمَّ الْمَرْسُومَةُ لَا تَخْلُو إمَّا أَنْ أَرْسَلَ الطَّلَاقَ بِأَنْ كَتَبَ: أَمَّا بَعْدُ فَأَنْتِ طَالِقٌ، فَكَمَا كَتَبَ هَذَا يَقَعُ الطَّلَاقُ وَتَلْزَمُهَا الْعِدَّةُ مِنْ وَقْتِ الْكِتَابَةِ. .(رد المحتار ج 4 ص 456. دار الكتب العلمية)
[2] وَلَوْ قَالَ فِي حَالِ مُذَاكَرَةِ الطَّلَاقِ بَايَنْتُك أَوْ أَبَنْتُك أَوْ أَبَنْت مِنْك أَوْ لَا سُلْطَانَ لِي عَلَيْك أَوْ سَرَّحْتُك أَوْ وَهَبْتُك لِنَفْسِك أَوْ خَلَّيْت سَبِيلَك أَوْ أَنْتِ سَائِبَةٌ أَوْ أَنْتِ حُرَّةٌ أَوْ أَنْتِ أَعْلَمُ بِشَأْنِك. فَقَالَتْ: اخْتَرْت نَفْسِي. يَقَعُ الطَّلَاقُ وَإِنْ قَالَ لَمْ أَنْوِ الطَّلَاقَ لَا يُصَدَّقُ قَضَاءً وَلَوْ قَالَ لَهَا لَا نِكَاحَ بَيْنِي وَبَيْنَك أَوْ قَالَ لَمْ يَبْقَ بَيْنِي وَبَيْنَك نِكَاحٌ يَقَعُ الطَّلَاقُ إذَا نَوَى وَلَوْ قَالَتْ الْمَرْأَةُ لِزَوْجِهَا لَسْت لِي بِزَوْجٍ فَقَالَ الزَّوْجُ صَدَقْت وَنَوَى بِهِ الطَّلَاقَ يَقَعُ فِي قَوْلِ أَبِي حَنِيفَةَ – رَحِمَهُ اللَّهُ تَعَالَى – كَذَا فِي فَتَاوَى قَاضِي خَانْ.(الفتاوى الهندية ج 1 ص 411. دار الكتب العلمية)
[3] وَفِي الْمُحِيطِ لَوْ قَالَتْ الْمَرْأَةُ أَنَا طَالِقٌ فَقَالَ الزَّوْجُ نَعَمْ كَانَتْ طَالِقًا إنْ نَوَى بِهِ طَلَاقًا مُسْتَقْبَلًا، وَإِنْ نَوَى بِهِ الْخَبَرَ عَمَّا مَضَى وَقَعَ، وَفِي الْبَزَّازِيَّةِ قَالَتْ لَهُ أَنَا طَالِقٌ فَقَالَ نَعَمْ طَلُقَتْ وَلَوْ قَالَتْ طَلِّقْنِي فَقَالَ نَعَمْ لَا، وَإِنْ نَوَى اهـ.(البحر الرائق ج 3 ص 445. مكتبه رشيدية)
وَلَوْ قَالَتْ أَنَا طَالِقٌ فَقَالَ نَعَمْ طَلُقَتْ وَلَوْ قَالَهُ فِي جَوَابِ طَلِّقْنِي لَا تَطْلُقُ وَإِنْ نَوَى قِيلَ لِرَجُلٍ أَلَسْت طَلَّقْت امْرَأَتَك فَقَالَ بَلَى تَطْلُقُ كَأَنَّهُ قَالَ طَلَّقْت لِأَنَّهُ جَوَابُ الِاسْتِفْهَامِ بِالْإِثْبَاتِ وَلَوْ قَالَ نَعَمْ لَا تَطْلُقُ لِأَنَّهُ جَوَابُ الِاسْتِفْهَامِ بِالنَّفْيِ كَأَنَّهُ قَالَ مَا طَلَّقْت كَذَا فِي الْخُلَاصَةِ (الفتاوى الهندية ج 1 ص 391. دار الكتب العلمية)