Answered by: Maulana Jamal Ahmed
Salam Alaikum Mufti sahib,
I have been married for a few years and although married life is good my husband says really bad things sometimes in a joke
Like for example, he says “I am Jewish” then says astaghfirullah I was just joking. So many more examples which I don’t want to give, some really bad ones such as saying “You are Allah” and then straight away he says astaghfirullah and he laughs and jokes with things like that. I think maybe something is wrong in his head. He also says he has divorced me then he says I’m joking I haven’t and he finds it funny like nothing happened.
But would that affect my marriage in any way?
If someone says “I am a Christian”, whether he said it in jest or seriously, he will become a kafir. Even if a person says “so and so religion is better than Islam”, he will become a kafir. (Apka masail awr un ka hal, pg.46, vol. 2, maktabah ludhyanawi.)
Based upon the above quote, if a person says “I am a Jew”, he will leave the fold of Islam, therefore he has to renew his Islam by reading the shahadah, and also he needs to renew the nikah.
If a person divorces his wife in jest, divorce will still take place.
Abu Hurairah (R.A) narrates, The Prophet (ﷺ) said: There are three things which, whether undertaken seriously or in jest, are treated as serious: Marriage, divorce and taking back a wife (after a divorce which is not final) Abu Dawud, pg. 516, vol. 3, hadith no. 2194, Darul risalah al alamiyah.
Only Allah knows best.
Written by Maulana Jamal Ahmed
Checked and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah
Darul Ifta Birmingham