Assalaam-ale-kum, Jazaakaallah for this online services. May Allah reward you all for this help in duniya as well as in akhirat. I was 30 when I got married 3 years back without the consent of my parents through matrimonial site, due to their rejection of my marriage at that time. I was wandering away from my home and city for 7 years for jobs as my parents wanted me to settle with high income job.During these years I kept minimum amount for food and stayed in masjid’s accomodation to send maximum money to my parents. I became home sick and family sick during these years but tried to sustain my life anyhow. But after a certain extend it was impossible for me to live isolated so I married. As according to Hdeeth-(As for the person who has a very urgent need, nikah will be fard upon him. This is because there is a fear that he will commit adultery and thereby get the sin of committing a haram act) Even after my marriage I was fulfilling my duty as a son -Financially, morally and in every aspect. I kept my personal married life a low affair- financially as well as other matter, no extravagant expenses.Still my parents are not happy with me and asking me to get married according to their wishes or cut off from the family. Please advise me what I should do? Please answer what I did is right or wrong according to Shariah?
Answer
(Fatwa: 512/469=B/1430)
If you are right in your words, then in dire needs, you can marry. But, if the Nikah was solemnized through website, then it did not take place. But, if it was discussed on internet and the Nikah was solemnized before two witnesses according to the Shariah and Sunnah, then it is valid. Keep on serving parents as before, asking their pardon as well and praying Allah for them. Most possibly, they express their consent approval.
Allah (Subhana Wa Ta’ala) knows Best
Darul Ifta,
Darul Uloom Deoband