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As Salam Alai Kum, I married a girl in April 2009 and now I have a son by grace of Allah almighty. The problem started with the day of marriage as the the guest from my side were treated badly. But I maintained a neutral view towards every body and always advocated methods to reconcile and forget the past. But from past 6 months (since the birth of our child)the attitude of my in laws has changed and they have started using languages (threatened to kill me and my parents-specially my wifes aunt) . I Then also I told my parents and wife that only my wife maintain relationship with them and me and my family will not talk to them. My wife’s dad came to our house and again started cursing my parents and my younger sister. I am really upset with all this thing and most hurtful is that my wife doesnot seem take a stand on who is right and who is wrong…even if I have asked her several times. This really angers me as being the only son to my parents I have a duty towards my parents…and the only way now seems to me is that I separate from my wife. My father is totally against this but I cannot go against my parents wish. Please advice what should be done in this regard. I too love my wife but I am not able to make her understand that loving her does not mean that I will take take any bad remarks for my family from her family.. Please advice that according to Shariah what is the best possible way available to me.. Seeking your dua and guiadance, Regards, Nayyar Rahman, Mob:- 91-9886748922 PS:- Is there any way to talk to you?

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As Salam Alai Kum, I married a girl in April 2009 and now I have a son by grace of Allah almighty. The problem started with the day of marriage as the the guest from my side were treated badly. But I maintained a neutral view towards every body and always advocated methods to reconcile and forget the past. But from past 6 months (since the birth of our child)the attitude of my in laws has changed and they have started using languages (threatened to kill me and my parents-specially my wifes aunt) . I Then also I told my parents and wife that only my wife maintain relationship with them and me and my family will not talk to them. My wife’s dad came to our house and again started cursing my parents and my younger sister. I am really upset with all this thing and most hurtful is that my wife doesnot seem take a stand on who is right and who is wrong…even if I have asked her several times. This really angers me as being the only son to my parents I have a duty towards my parents…and the only way now seems to me is that I separate from my wife. My father is totally against this but I cannot go against my parents wish. Please advice what should be done in this regard. I too love my wife but I am not able to make her understand that loving her does not mean that I will take take any bad remarks for my family from her family.. Please advice that according to Shariah what is the best possible way available to me.. Seeking your dua and guiadance, Regards, Nayyar Rahman, Mob:- 91-9886748922 PS:- Is there any way to talk to you?

Answer

(Fatwa: 601/H=207/th=1432)

It is better for you not to get separated from your wife, rather you should behave her politely and in good manner, this is required by Shariah. You should follow your father’s instructions in this regard.

Allah (Subhana Wa Ta’ala) knows Best

Darul Ifta,
Darul Uloom Deoband

This answer was collected from the official ifta website of Darul Uloom Deoband in India.

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