Dear scholar, I love a girl who is 19 yrs old, I m 26 yrs old. She is from Pakistan but lives in London, I live in India. We both love each other from the deep of our heart. But her parents don’t want me. Without knowing anything about me they said no. Now they have fixed her marriage to her cousin, after doing all they asked her for her consent, so that she couldn?t say no. She tried to say no but then they threatened her saying if she wants to marry of her own choice (to me) she has to leave them forever. Just for the sake of her parent’s happiness and social status and reputation she agreed and said yes at that time. But she is not happy with this relation as she loves me a lot. But she can’t say anything to her parents as well, as she is worried about their reputation and social status, that there will be an insult for them. I want to know if she marries in this condition, will it be legal and lawful as her parents emotionally blackmailed her? What alternate way is there so that she can convey her wish to their parents? If she marries, I won’t marry anyone ever. As I have accepted her as my wife keeping Allah as witness. Please help. I?ll be very grateful to you. Thank you.
Answer
(Fatwa: 213/213=M/1430)
There is none who is more well-wisher and affectionate to one than his parents. In the abovementioned case, the girl should accept the match selected for her by her parents and she should stay obedient to them. You should discard the thought of marrying the girl from your mind, pairs are destined by Allah. You are wrong to say that her parents have blackmailed emotionally. You should repent to Allah and ask for His forgiveness from your saying: ?I have accepted her as my wife keeping Allah as witness.?
Allah (Subhana Wa Ta’ala) knows Best
Darul Ifta,
Darul Uloom Deoband