Shortly after my marriage, my mom started misunderstanding my wife over silly issues. My wife tried to meet my mom’s expectations, but could not. We’ve been trying to remove the misunderstandings but couldn’t be successful so far. My mom’s also quite short-tempered. My wife’s fed up of my mom’s behavior & she doesn’t like to tolerate my mom now even for silly issues. We were all living together in India until I got a job in Gulf sometime back. Since then, I’m staying here with my wife & kid, & my parents are staying in India. As I don’t have siblings, my parents are staying alone. My parents are aged but are able to help themselves. I’m quite concerned of their loneliness and I wish to stay with them with the intention of serving them. But, my wife doesn’t wish to stay with my parents because of our family issues. However, my parents are ready to stay with us anywhere. Pls advise as what I should do in this situation to look after my parents and my wife simultaneously.
Answer
(Fatwa: 549/458/B=1432)
In the question mentioned above, it would be far better if you make your wife and your mother ready to develop soft attitude and live patiently. And if it is not possible, you should take any house near your parents’ home on rent and keep your wife there, and keep on providing food facility etc to your parents. And you should provide your parents as much services and facility as possible and make them free from self-service.
Allah (Subhana Wa Ta’ala) knows Best
Darul Ifta,
Darul Uloom Deoband