My wife sister said to my wife that my mother has devil eyes and my wife also agreed with her in this sentence. I read her mobile messages without her permission, and for information we both are frank with each other that we use each other belongings without permission. I ate 30 mg sleeping pills due to anger that how can my wife agrees her or even listen to these evil words as I love my wife a lot, (Something else also happened apart of this) and in this anger state (Keeping in mind that I was not in my senses at that moment) I said to my wife “If you talk to your sister anymore then my relationship with you will be end”. As she loves her family/sister more than me or our relationship, I knew that whatever happens she will talk. To cut the long story short, she talked to her sister afterwards. So, please clear me what are the Islamic ruling on this? Furthermore, still she has no guilt that she did wrong, in fact blaming me again and again that how can I touch her cell phone? It means that I am wrong that I used her cell phone, and she is right as every sister used to talk bad things against their husband’s family.
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
(1) If you said with the intention of talaq that “If you talk to your sister anymore then my relationship with you will be end” and thereafter your wife talked to her sister then one talaq bayin occurred on your wife. And if you didn’t say it with the intention of talaq then no talaq occurred after talking the sister. So it is mentioned in Fatawa Mahmoodia, vol. 12, p. 550, pub. Darul Marif.
(2) You both lag behind in following the Shariah and living together and treating each other and paying the rights of each other. You should pay special attention towards your reformation.
Allah knows Best!
Darul Uloom Deoband
This answer was collected from the official ifta website of Darul Uloom Deoband in India.