Q: My husband had an affair and I found out about it. I am very depressed. He is asking for forgiveness from me and I have forgiven him but I can’t forget what he had done. I asked him all the details of what he had done with this woman and now each time I think about it it makes me hate him. When he comes close to me I think about what he had done with the woman. Please help me. I am very upset. It has been 4 months and I can’t get over it.
A: If you can find it in your heart to truly forgive your husband and at the same time take precautions for the future, Allah Ta’aala will surely forgive you for your shortcomings and have mercy on you. The mistake was asking for details because this is now working on your mind. This will take time. He has sinned. He must make Taubah (repent) for this lapse. If you truly forgive him, Allah will grace you with His special mercies and favours. Be patient and it will heal, Inshaa Allah. Every human has his/her faults. Some of these faults hurt others too, (as in this case) but the issue cannot be undone. Yes, we have to take precautions for the future. Help him in this. May Allah Ta’aala grant you peace of mind, tranquility and harmony, Aameen.
Moulana Yusuf Laher