my question is that if a husband beats her wife and kids ,use alchohol ,having unfair relations with other women in spite of being a muslim.what should a wife do to save her family.A wife cannot leave her house , can’t left her children alone and she cannot survive alone either. she will have to wait for a miraculous change when allah send hadaya to her husband and they live happily ever after or can she beat him too to stop him from this inhuman act.
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
We are sorry to hear of the turbulent marriage and the husband’s careless attitude and immoral conduct towards his wife and children. It is indeed a great misfortune that a woman has to face such tragic circumstances in her marriage. May Allah Ta’ala keep her strong and make it easy for her Aameen.
In a marriage, a wife is a mirror for her husband. She should speak to her husband with love and concern. She may tell him the she wishes to help him come out of his sinful acts. She knows her husband best and she would know when and how best he could be approached to solicit a responsible response. He requires her help in making him understand the commitment a married couple must adhere to and in distancing himself from the sinful acts he is committing.
The husband should be told about the virtues of maintaining a lifestyle of pardah, and explain to him that the value and quality of a marital bliss that demands him not to interact with non-mahrams (marriageable).
The environment at home in terms of deen should also be addressed. An environment should be created in the house which propels everyone to live a life of Allah consciousness. This could be done through conducting ta’lim on a daily basis, participating in educational programs and introducing Islamic literature. The family should start collective recitation of the kitaab, ‘Fadhaail-e-Aamaal’ by Shaykhul Hadith Moulana Zakariyyah at home as it has proved effective.
The husband should be encouraged to spend some time in jama’at with the tableeghi brothers. We also recommend that he should adopt the company of the pious ‘ulama and connect himself to a shiekh. These two methods are extremely effective in strengthening one’s imaan and reforming oneself.
Furthermore, the wife should express her sentiments to an elderly reputable person who may enjoy some influence over him and thus explain to him kindly, or contact a local reliable scholar or the Imam who he could confide in to overcome his difficulty.
The woman should adopt all possible means to address the issue, she should also resort to salatul Haajah and dua. Allah Ta’ala is capable of doing everything. Nothing is hopeless in the power of Allah Ta’ala. He can change the temperament of her husband.
We make Dua that Allah Ta’ala may grant her the courage and ability to deal with the predicament efficiently. Aameen.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Fahad Abdul Wahab
Student Darul Iftaa
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai