ASalamu -Alaykum
Ive got married in 2010 to my now husband ,two days after that he told me he must go back to jhb. After six months being married to him I found out that he remarried his 2nd wife two days after our marraige. He has never since notl lived with me .He comes home just for 3 or 4 days and then leave, of that 4 days I still have to share with his 2nd wife.He claims I haveto be satisfied for other men abuses their wives. I feel this is more than being abused . He also told me he will never remarry his2nd wife again because she is doing shirk and black magic. He respects her more than me. He now want to give me one talaaq and don’t want me to do a fasagh.His reason for talaaq is because hewants the 2nd wife to think he is no longer withme and than after 3 month of Idah he want to talaaq her.He also wants her to take him to the MJC to witness the talaaq but I can’t witness his talaaq to her.is there a method to to this madness.He annot defend himself when I ask him question. I think he fears his 2nd wife more than his CReator.
Shukran
Answer:
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
A successful marriage is based on trust and respect. A marriage can never be successful without trust and respect. Your husband is not honest to you. He lies and deceives you. You cannot trust him. He does not respect you and the institution of Nikah. It is never expected of such a person to fulfill his marital obligations. You should consider coming out of this marriage. A woman is not meant to be abused and disrespected. You do not have to go through such grief and anxiety. You will be better off without him. You are correct to refer to this as madness. Ask him to divorce you. If he refuses, tell him you will apply to the local Ulama body to annul (fasakh) the marriage. You will tell them all about him.
If a person does not fear Allah, he will not look after you. There is no point in you being in this marriage.
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.