If wife does not want to have sex (because she feels pain in her private parts and also she is tired looking-after her small baby), then is it permissable for the husband to masturbate?

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If wife does not want to have sex (because she feels pain in her private parts and also she is tired looking-after her small baby), then is it permissable for the husband to masturbate?


In the name of Allāh, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

Assalāmu ῾alaykum wa Rahmatullāhi Wabarakātuh


In principle, it is not permissible for a man or woman to masturbate/self stimulate themselves. This is substantiated by clear juristic texts cited in various books. However, if a husband desires his wife to masturbate him, it will be permissible despite it still being regarded as an undesirable act.

(Fatāwa Mahmudiyyah, Vol. 18, Pg. 636/7, Fāruqiyyah)

(Hindiyyah, Vol. 2, Pg. 170, Rashīdiyyah)[1]

(Raddul Muhtār, Vol. 4, Pg. 27, HM Saeed)[2]

(Raddul Muhtār, Vol. 2, Pg. 399, HM Saeed)

And Allāh Ta῾āla Knows Best
Wassalāmu ῾alaykum 


Ml. Ebrahim Desai,
Student Dārul Iftā

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[1] الِاسْتِمْنَاءُ حَرَامٌ وَفِيهِ التَّعْزِيرُ وَلَوْ مَكَّنَ امْرَأَتَهُ أو أَمَتَهُ من الْعَبَثِ بِذَكَرِهِ فَأَنْزَلَ فإنه مَكْرُوهٌ وَلَا شَيْءَ عليه (فصل في التعزير,1702 ,هندية)

[2] فَرْعٌ ] فِي الْجَوْهَرَةِ : الِاسْتِمْنَاءُ حَرَامٌ ، وَفِيهِ التَّعْزِيرُ .وَلَوْ مَكَّنَ امْرَأَتَهُ أَوْ أَمَتَهُ مِنْ الْعَبَثِ بِذَكَرِهِ فَأَنْزَلَ كُرِهَ وَلَا شَيْءَ عَلَيْهِ

(الشَّرْحُ) ( قَوْلُهُ الِاسْتِمْنَاءُ حَرَامٌ ) أَيْ بِالْكَفِّ إذَا كَانَ لِاسْتِجْلَابِ الشَّهْوَةِ ، أَمَّا إذَا غَلَبَتْهُ الشَّهْوَةُ وَلَيْسَ لَهُ زَوْجَةٌ وَلَا أَمَةٌ فَفَعَلَ ذَلِكَ لِتَسْكِينِهَا فَالرَّجَاءُ أَنَّهُ لَا وَبَالَ عَلَيْهِ كَمَا قَالَهُ أَبُو اللَّيْثِ ، وَيَجِبُ لَوْ خَافَ الزِّنَا ( قَوْلُهُ كُرِهَ ) الظَّاهِرُ أَنَّهَا كَرَاهَةُ تَنْزِيهٍ ؛ لِأَنَّ ذَلِكَ بِمَنْزِلَةِ مَا لَوْ أَنْزَلَ بِتَفْخِيذٍ أَوْ تَبْطِينٍ تَأَمَّلْ وَقَدَّمْنَا عَنْ الْمِعْرَاجِ فِي بَابِ مُفْسِدَاتِ الصَّوْمِ : يَجُوزُ أَنْ يَسْتَمْنِيَ بِيَدِ زَوْجَتِهِ أَوْ خَادِمَتِهِ ، وَانْظُرْ مَا كَتَبْنَاهُ هُنَاكَ ( قَوْلُهُ وَلَا شَيْءَ عَلَيْهِ ) أَيْ مِنْ حَدٍّ وَتَعْزِيرٍ ، وَكَذَا مِنْ إثْمٍ عَلَى مَا قُلْنَاهُ (رد المحتار,مطلب في حكم اللواطة, 274)