plz let me know if wadu is required after havin bath ,or can we pray directly after bath,as my brothers ustad (teacher) who is helping him memorise quran told him so.secondly i have been married since 3 years and presently staying with my husband in abudhabi,my brother in law is also staying with us,though i dont feel comfortable as i have to stay covered when my husband is at home but still im ok wid it for time being as his still not married and hes not yet set up in his life .me n my inlaws r not in gud terms now.in beginning they lhisiked me but always criticised my parents n always used to convince my husband that my parents are being bad to him.tehy r also involved in doing amal(magic) i my self saw itn when i told that to my husband they convinced him by giving some excuses.as im staying here wid my brother in law when ever i go out he comes in my room n i dont know why he does taht.i kept quiet for long time but now i started locking my doorwhile going out,seeing this my husband got angry saying his brother is not an outsider n hell feel bad,n when i told him he comes inside n i know becoz i to keep used some thing by which i know that. but now im not locking the door becoz of that my husband is getting angry with me.later my inlaws are also going to come n i dont feel comfortable with this matter n feel there no privacy.more over my husband is also not ready to understand me .plz help me.
In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful
Assalaamu `alaykum waRahmatullahi Wabarakatuh
1) If the Fard acts of wuzu are complete (i.e. the limbs that are Fard are washed or get wet with or without the intention of wuzu), the wuzu will be done. However, without the intention of wuzu, one will not attain the reward for that wuzu. (Behishti Zewar p51)
2) Allah Ta’ala says in the Qur’an Kareem
“And provide them shelter where you stay and do not harm them”.
(S. 65 V. 6)
When a man divorces his wife, he must provide her shelter during her Iddat. Even when the marriage has deteriorated, the husband has to provide her shelter. How much more important it would be upon him to fulfill the obligation during the normal marriage period. The verse clearly indicates that the husband must provide shelter for the wife. Despite this verse exhorting the husband to provide shelter for his wife, the purpose for her shelter is to protect her belongings and her privacy. If she is staying with other people in the house (e.g. her in-laws) then her room will be her private space. It will not be permissible for any person of the house to enter her room without her consent. (Shami Vol. 2).
We understand your condition and make dua that Almighty Allah makes this matter easy for you. As explained above, you have the right to your privacy and none can invade your personal space; neither your brother in-law, nor your in-laws. You have complete control over your privacy to such an extent that your husband cannot force you to grant access to anyone without your approval.
However, this is a very delicate issue which can create family feuds. Therefore, you should take care when presenting your concerns to your husband. Knowing that you are not on good terms with your in-laws, your husband may sense aversion from you to his parents and brother and this may cause him to have an aversion towards you. So act with wisdom in order to keep the peace with your in-laws and to keep the respect of your husband.
And Allah knows best
Ml. Zakariyya bin Ahmed,
Student Darul Iftaa
Checked and Approved by:
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
Darul Iftaa, Madrassah In’aamiyyah
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