My Husband and I have a very difficult relationship with his family. His Family moved to Pakistan 4 years ago, and think that my husband is wrong to continue living in a non-muslim country. My husband is a very pious man mashallah. He prays all salats in the masjid, he devotes 2 hours a day , 3 days a month and 40 days a year to doing dawah. I also spend 40 days a year in the path of Allah.
We would not be able to do this if we lived with his family. In fact they frown upon me for doing purdah, and ask me to take off my hijaab if guests are coming or for me to stay away (which i do)! They pray salaah alhamdulilah, and are knowledgable about islam, but are tradtional pakistanis also.
My husbands work is also here, as is my family, and our network of muslims.
My question is, is it haraam for us to continue to live in England? We were both born and raised here. Pakistan is not really home for us. My husband sends money and gifts to his family, visits them regularly and phones them everyday. His brother lives with the family so they are not in need of a mehram. Please give a detailed response as my inlaws keep saying we are hypocrites to spend time on deen and then to disobey them,
In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful
Assalaamu `alaykum waRahmatullahi Wabarakatoh
At the outset, we commend you and your husband in your commitment in adhering to Deen. We make Dua that Allah grants you Istiqamah, Ameen.
According to Shariah, if you are able to fulfil your religious obligations in a non Muslim country, there is no need to migrate to a “Muslim” country. just as any democratic dispensation affords its citizens the freedom to practice their religion without any fear, hindrance or intimidation. Therefore it is not necessary to migrate to on the pretext that
You state that your husband still maintains contact with his family and strives to fulfil their rights and obligations. You should support your husband in fulfilling his duties and do not allow this incident to destabilize your marriage. Your husband should explain to his family with wisdom and diplomacy that he has decided to remain in the in the best interest of his family and children and his decision should not be considered as hypocritical.
We are not sure of your specific situation but sometimes you would just have to close your ears and tolerate certain comments to maintain the peace and stability in the family.
Continue with your life and pay attention on serving your husband and children. You should also respect your in laws and win them over with your Akhlaaq and character.
And Allah knows best
Muhammed Zakariyya Desai,
Checked and Approved by:
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
Darul Iftaa, Madrassah In’aamiyyah