Assalamoalaikum Mufti Saab. i have a few questions to ask you. 1> Me and my girlfriend got married in front of two witnesses without an imam or parents consent is this accepted in Islam. 2> can you give me a duaa to make my stress go away because i want to get marrried to her the proper way aswell in front of an imam and our parents but i stress because it is a few years away and our parents will disapprove at first but inshallah they will change their minds. 3> My girlfriend is gone away to Pakistan and i was wondering if you could tell me a duaa to read for her to have a safe journey.4> Is there a way for me to stay together with my girlfriend for ever in this life and the next please give me a duaa or tell me how. 5> can you tell me how to convince my parents for me to get married to this girl. 6> Can you please provide the appropriate references for the above mentioned.
1. The marriage is invalid.
2. Kindly refer below our standard reply on ‘How to perform Nikah.’
3. It is not permissible to have any premarital relationship with the girl.
You should terminate every contact with her until marriage.
4. Marriage is a major step in one’s life. It is important to seek the
advice and guidance of your seniors in your marriage. Your seniors, parents,
etc. have experience and wisdom. They love you and know you. You should not
do anything behind their back. Explain them your feelings and what you wish
to do. They will advise you appropriately.
and Allah Ta’ala Knows Best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
FATWA DEPT.
A Nikah is performed with a proposal (Iejaab) by the male or female and
acceptance (Qubool) by the male or female in the past tense and in the
presence of two male Muslim witnesses (Hidaaya vol. 2).
It is Sunnat that the marriage be announced and performed in the Masjid and
the bride be represented by her Mahram (father, brother, etc.). The bride
gives consent to her representative (Wakeel) in the presence of two
witnesses to perform her marriage at the Masjid. At the Masjid, the Wakeel
represents the bride in the presence of the two witnesses and the stipulated
dowry. The witnesses must be two trustworthy and pious male Muslims who are
not her ascendants e.g. father, grandfather or decendants e.g. son,
grandson, etc.
The Mahr (dowry) is the woman’s right and should be stipulated prior to the
marriage.
The procedure of marriage via the internet is same as marriage by proxy
where one of the partners (boy or girl) propose to marry the other. It is
advisable that the proposal be written in front of two persons. However,
this is not a precondition. (Shaami vol.3 pg.12; HM Saeed)
The two witnesses should also sign the document be sent to the other party,
for example, in a foreign land and accept the written proposal in the
presence of two witnesses. The presence of these two witnesses is a
pre-condition. It is important to exercise extreme precaution by verifying
the proposal and its witnessing to avoid any possibility of fraud and
deception.