I married to a pakistani muslim about 3 years ago.
My father was in control of the wedding arrangements and celebrations. If i am completely honest with you. i was not very much in the deen at this point in my life I was very distant from islam. My sinns to this day amount to the foams of the rivers and for this i am suffering the consequences. i have performed my ummrah 2 years ago and i was becoming a very good muslim. but unfortunatley i am no longer performing my salaat. I feel very ashamed of myself and i cannot get myself to get back into the deen. please rememeber me in your parayers
My question is as follows. My wedding consisted of many celebratiosn that most Pakistani wedding nowadays consist of. Loud music, dancing, dhol playing, mehndi, manya… so many things that i am sure you know were traditions of the hindu people. Although The actual Nikkah was as is supposed to be in Islam. whitnesses and a wali. reciting from the quran e.t.c,
Does this mean that my Marriage is not valid? My father also wrote an haq mer of £500 on my behalf and my wife has still not been given this to this day. i only recently learned that this was tha haq mer. Please advise me what i should do and if my marriage is valid?
I have now been married for three years and i have a daughter who is almost 2years old
Jazak’Allah. May Allah (s.w.t) grant you success in this world and in the hereafter.
In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful
Assalaamu `alaykum waRahmatullahi Wabarakatoh
The guilt that is eating you for not practicing deen and not performing salah is a good sign. That is tawfeeq from Allah. Many people don’t practice on deen and do not even feel guilty. Your nafs is presently experiencing a condition of Lawwamah (reproach). It is on this condition of the nafs that Allah takes an oath on. That guilty feeling will lead you to a breaking point to exit from your sins and make tawba. Make shukr to Allah for that feeling and capitalize on that to change your life. Never lose courage. If you love yourself, you will pick yourself up and make tawba and bring a change in your life. You may consider befriending a good and pious person to inspire you to bring about a change in your life. You could also consider taking ba’yt on the hands of some spiritual guide near you. You could refer to him for spiritual guidance and motivation. Do not feel ashamed of yourself. Allah loves those who seek forgiveness and turn to Him. Your past will be non-existent in the sight of Allah with his Forgiveness.
Your nikah is intact. The un-Islamic practices at the time of the nikah do not invalidate the nikah. If you did not give your wife her mehr, you should do so now. However, that to does not invalidate nikah.
And Allah Ta’ala Knows Best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
Darul Iftaa, Madrassah In’aamiyyah Source