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Today morning I had some dispute with my wife and in anger I said that “from now if you prepare breakfast for me then there will be a divorce”.

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Today morning I had some dispute with my wife and in anger I said that “from now if you prepare breakfast for me then there will be a divorce”.

I know that if she prepares breakfast for me in any part of rest of life then there will be a divorce. In this context, please advise how can I withdraw this condition to avoid divorce.

Answer

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

Assalaamu `alaykum waRahmatullahi Wabarakatoh

Firstly, you should understand that divorce is not a minor issue. It is not something with which one can threaten his wife with because of any minor argument. When one later realizes the consequences, he suffers from untold anxieties and extreme embarrassment. One of the primary reasons why a man only has been given the authority of issuing divorce is because of his general ability to maintain his calm and control his composure. This chief objective will be lost if a man starts to abuse this authority because of any petty issue.

A true and mature Muslim tries his best to protect his marriage by overlooking many faults of his partner. He always keep in mind the consequences of his anger and does not abuse the authority of divorce which Allah Ta’ala has given to him. We recommend that you take allegiance (bay’ah) with a Shaikh who can guide you on your spiritual part and aid in curing your spiritual maladies. 

As for your query, you should realize that talaaq is a sensitive and delicate issue; a slight change of words can change the entire ruling. It appears as if the statement you have quoted is a translated version of what you actually stated. Hereunder, we would issue the ruling according to the following possible words which you may have uttered…

“Iske bad agar to ne mere liye nashta banaya to talaaq hogie.”

If you have mentioned something besides this, you could send in the exact words and we will, insha Allah, issue the ruling accordingly.  

If the translation of the statement is as we have stated, a divorce will take place if your wife prepares breakfast for you.

حاشية ابن عابدين – (ج 3 / ص 244دار الفكر للطباعة والنشر)

 قلت وللحافظ ابن القيم الحنبلي رسالة في طلاق الغضبان قال فيها إنه على ثلاثة أقسام أحدها أن يحصل له مبادي الغضب بحيث لا يتغير عقله ويعلم ما يقول ويقصده وهذا لا إشكال فيه

 الثاني أن يبلغ النهاية فلا يعلم ما يقول ولا يريده فهذا لا ريب أنه لا ينفذ شيء من أقواله

 الثالث من توسط بين المرتبتين بحيث لم يصر كالمجنون فهذا محل النظر والأدلة تدل على عدم نفوذ أقواله اه

 ملخصا من شرح الغاية الحنبلية

 لكن أشار في الغاية إلى مخالفته في الثالث حيث قال ويقع طلاق من غضب خلافا لابن القيم اه

 وهذا الموافق عندنا لما مر في المدهوش لكن يرد عليه أنا لم نعتبر أقوال المعتوه مع أنه لا يلزم فيه أن يصل إلى حالة لا يعلم فيها ما يقول ولا يريده

 وقد يجاب بأن المعتوه لما كان مستمرا على حالة واحدة يمكن ضبطها اعتبرت فيه واكتفى فيه بمجرد نقص العقل بخلاف الغضب فإنه عارض في بعض الأحوال لكن يرد عليه الدهش فإنه كذلك

 والذي يظهر لي أن كلا من المدهوش والغضبان لا يلزم فيه أن يكون بحيث لا يعلم ما يقول بل يكتفى فيه بغلبة الهذيان واختلاط الجد بالهزل كما هو المفتى به في السكران على ما مر

فتاوي دار العلوم ديوبند – (ج 9 / ص 139 سوال نمبر 181 امدادية)

فتاوي محمودية- (ج 12 / ص 308 فاروقية)


In order to withdraw the condition that you have stipulated, you should issue one immediate (munjiz) divorce. After the termination of your wife’s iddah, she should prepare for you the breakfast. Thereafter, you should perform a new nikah. This will invalidate the condition that you have stipulated and she may prepare for you breakfast after your second marriage. The underlying reason for the above procedure is that after her iddah, when she prepares the breakfast, she is not a recipient for the divorce. This invalidates the condition. Thus, she may prepare breakfast after the new marriage. (Fatawah Mahmoodiyyah 13/124 Farooqiyyah)

الفتاوى الهندية – (ج 1 / ص 416 رشيدية)

فإن وجد الشرط في الملك انحلت اليمين بأن قال لامرأته إن دخلت الدار فأنت طالق فدخلت وهي امرأته وقع الطلاق ولم تبق اليمين وإن وجد في غير الملك انحلت اليمين بأن قال لامرأته إن دخلت الدار فأنت طالق فطلقها قبل وجود الشرط ومضت العدة ثم دخلت الدار تنحل اليمين ولم يقع شيء كذا في الكافي

الدر المختار – (ج 3 / ص 355 سعيد)

وتنحل ) اليمين ( بعد ) وجود ( الشرط مطلقا ) لكن إن وجد في الملك طلقت وعتق وإلا لا فحيلة من علق الثلاث بدخول الدار أن يطلقها واحدة ثم بعد العدة تدخلها فتنحل اليمين فينكحها

And Allah knows best

Wassalam

Ml. Ismail Moosa,
Student Darul Iftaa

Checked and Approved by:

Mufti Ebrahim Desai
Darul Iftaa, Madrassah In’aamiyyah

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