My husband is telling me that lets try for a second baby. Our first daughter turned 1 yr in this month. I told my husband that right now she is very small and there should be atleast 2-21/2 yr gap b/w them, but hes insisting me that she’ll be 2 then. Rigt now i just dun want to have a second child too early. he says i’ll help you in everything n it’ll be ok but i just dun want it right now. what should i do? is this disobedience towards my husband.?
Also, is it true that during pregnancy the mother’s milk become dangerous for the sucking child? i have read this on an islamic site. The final thiing that i wanna ask is that if we r using birth control te pregnancy willl not occur, and if we do not use it it will happen? you know for some ppl it works like that ……but i dun understand this. Allah will do wtever HE wants…… i know it depends on allah’s wish and my husband is telling me this that it will occur whenever HE wants but I have this fear of becoming pregnant right away if i have no protection but i have protection thne i am not worried. isn’t this kufr?
In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful
Assalaamu `alaykum waRahmatullahi Wabarakatoh
- S/A Birth Control.
- The milk of a pregnant woman is not dangerous for her suckling child.
- If one practices with he belief that Allah does whatever he wishes and the birth control measure cannot stop Allah from creating a child, then that is not Kufr.
Chemical – the pill which is taken orally spermicidal jellies used locally. Mechanical – use of condom intra-uterine device Physical – coitus interruptus rhythm method Permanent – sterilization operation – tubal ligations – vasectomies.
Is the Practice of contraception allowed in Islam? If so, under what circumstances?
Contraception is permissible on a limited scale for valid reasons – reasons considered by the Shariلh to be valid. The circumstances which will permit reversible and permanent contraception differ.
Among the reasons accepted by the Shariلh as valid for practising reversible contraception are:
(A) Physical weakness.
(C) The wife maintaining her beauty or figure for the sake of her husband.
(D) The couple being on a journey or in a distant land.
(E) Adverse political conditions, e.g. children are forcibly separated from their parents as is advocated by communism; etc.
(F) The couple decide to separate in the near future.
(G) The wife is an immoral person.
There are valid grounds for practising reversible contraception. Poverty or the fear of poverty are not valid reasons for contraception. It is not permissible to practice contraception on account of a fear of not being able to provide for a large family. Such a fear is an attribute of non-Muslims. According to the Qurمn Shareef: ‘There is not a living creature, but its sustenance is the responsibility of Allah.’
Similarly desire to curb sexual desire which may stem out of piety is not a lawful ground for contraception. If practised for any reason which is unlawful in Islam, then contraception will likewise be unlawful, e.g. for indulgence in illicit sex.
Permanent contraception is permissible only if the woman’s life is in danger or her health is seriously threatened.
And Allah knows best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
Darul Iftaa, Madrassah In’aamiyyah