Assalamu Alaikum!
I live in India. I got married one year back. But the family of my spouse doesnt like me from the beginning. But we were living happily. Now, they (Spouse’s family) asking us to seperate and asking my wife to stay with them for 15 days to convience her to initiate khula against me. But my spouse don’t want to go to her house. She said to me that her brother and her family is praying to Allah not to give child to her so that they can take time and seperate us. They are confronting two solutions :
1. Her family let us to live happily upon condition i.e., My spouse have to give back the jewels to her family and she has to write that she will have no connection between her and her family and won’t come for any asset that she is liable to have.
2. If she can’t agree to the above condition, She has to give Khula and demand the compensation amount from myslef.
I don’t know what to do? Kindly assist me in further step in islamic way. (Allah knows the best)
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
Brother in Islam,
It is unfortunate to hear of the predicament you are being faced with. May Allah Ta’āla alleviate you from your difficulties.
It is not permissible for your wife’s family to incite her against you and spoil the good relationship you enjoy.
If the jewellery belongs to your spouse, then your spouse is not required to give her jewellery to the family.
It is also not permissible for her family to usurp her right by depriving her from her assets. Allah Ta’āla says:
وَلَا تَأْكُلُوا أَمْوَالَكُم بَيْنَكُم بِالْبَاطِلِ وَتُدْلُوا بِهَا إِلَى الْحُكَّامِ لِتَأْكُلُوا فَرِيقًا مِّنْ أَمْوَالِ النَّاسِ بِالْإِثْمِ وَأَنتُمْ تَعْلَمُونَ – (2:188)
Translation: And do not consume one another’s wealth unjustly or send it [in bribery] to the rulers in order that [they might aid] you [to] consume a portion of the wealth of the people in sin, while you know [it is unlawful]. (2:188)
We advise identifying a person who has influence over your spouse’s family to make them understand and deter them from breaking the relationship between you and your wife. The person should remind them of the consciousness of Allah Ta’āla and accountability in the court of Allah Ta’āla on the day of Qiyaamah, as well as the harms of breaking a relationship in this world.
We advise that your spouse refrain from going to her family until the issue is resolved.
Turn your focus to Allah Ta’āla. Make Dua, give Sadaqah and seek the protection of Allah Ta’āla. Recite the following Duas:
اللَّهُمَّ اكْفِنِيهِمْ بِمَا شِئْتَ
Translation: O Allah, save me from them (in any way) you like.
اللهم إنا نَجعَلُكَ فِي نُحُورِهِم ، ونَعوذ بِك مِن شُرُورِهِم
Translation: O Allah! We ask You to face them, and seek Your Protection against their evil.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Mudassir Benish
Student-Darul Iftaa
Houston, TX, U.S.A
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.