Please answer these questions regarding rights of in-laws and marital disputes?

Answered according to Hanafi Fiqh by

Kindly answer these questions for me:

What are the rights of Mother and Father in law towards their daughter in law?
Can the wife refuse to respect the Mother and Father in law?
If the husband is not willing to move into a separate house than his parents, but the wife demands it, will it be necessary for the husband to take her into a separate house?

If the wife shows disrespectful behavior is it right to leave her at her mother’s house for some days to teach her a lession?
And if in these days care is not taken of the wife, like giving her money or taking responsibility of the child, will the husband be sinful?
Is there a limit for staying upset with ones wife in this manner?
Please provide some advice on how to bring ones wife to act in a proper manner?

If the wife does not allow the father to meet his child can the father meet the child by force, similarly can the paternal grandparents do the same?
If the wife does not obey the husband then what can the husband do? Like can he threat her of divorce and if then also she does not obey can he divorce her?
If the wife does not respect the Mother and Father in law and does not allow them to meet their grand child and does not even respect her husband, will her husband be sinful to divorce her?
Is it the responsibility of the ex-husband to support the ex-wife after divorce?


In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

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Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.