My name and phone number I have submitted is wrong because I do not want to reveal myself
Please listen to my story carefully
I am unmarried and my age is 27 now
I had sex with 3 different women all of them are my cousin sisters
First one was unmarried when we had sex and remaining two were married when we had sex
But the point is I never had complete sex with any of them we just kissed and did stuff but never had actual intercourse.
i know Allah forgives sin if repented seriously
My questions are:
1. Do i fall into category of fornicator and can I be called Zaani or not because Zani means who actually did complete Sex you know very well what is complete sex?
I have read different forums they say that Allah will erase all sins as if they were never happened.My second question is
2. Does Allah takes somethings from you in order erase sins
Third two persons in my family know i have committed half sex with one of my cousin sister and remaining two sexual act is hidden from everyone
Also i have committed this sin multiple times with all my cousin sisters
kindly help me understand my act whether it is zina or not and also will i have to face the shaming on day of judgement
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
You enquire if the acts committed by you are zina or not. The following hadith should answer you:
العينان زناهما النظر، والأذنان زناهما الاستماع، واللسان زناه الكلام، واليد زناها البطش، والرجل زناها الخطا[1]
Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam said: The Zina of the eye is the (lustful) look, the Zina of the ears is the listening (to voluptuous songs or talk), the Zina of the tongue is (the licentious) speech, the Zina of the hand is the (lustful) grip, the Zina of the feet is the walking (to the place where he intends to commit Zina)
Shariah does not merely prohibit adultery. In fact Shariah prohibits anything that may lead to adultery.[2] It is clear you regret your wrong. Make sincere tawba to Allah to forgive you and resolve never to commit such sins in future. You are 27 years old. You should worry. Rasulullah Salallahu Alayhi Wasallam said:
فقال لنا رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يا معشر الشباب من استطاع الباءة فليتزوج فإنه أغض للبصر وأحصن للفرج ، ومن لم يستطع فعليه بالصوم فإنه له وجاء [3]
The Messenger of Allah said to us: “0 young men, those among you who can support a wife should marry, for it restrains eyes (from casting evil glances) and preserves one from immorality; but he who cannot afford it should observe fast for it is a means of controlling the sexual desire.”
Also identify a spiritual guide to help you reform yourself.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Aboobakr Siddeeq bin Mufti Amjad Mohammad
Student Darul Iftaa
Azaadville, JHB, South Africa
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.
[1] رياض الصالحين –422 – دار السلام
وعن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه أن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قال: “كُتب على ابن آدم نصيبه من الزنا مدرك ذلك لا محالة: العينان زناهما النظر، والأذنان زناهما الاستماع، واللسان زناه الكلام، واليد زناها البطش، والرجل زناها الخطا، والقلب يهوى ويتمنى، ويصدق ذلك الفرج أو يكذبه”
[2] القرآن الكريم – سورة الاسراء – اية 32
وَلاَ تَقْرَبُواْ الزِّنَى إِنَّهُ كَانَ فَاحِشَةً وَسَاء سَبِيلاً
[3] صحيح البخاري ـ حسب ترقيم فتح الباري – (7 / 3)
حدثنا عمر بن حفص بن غياث ، حدثنا أبي ، حدثنا الأعمش ، قال : حدثني عمارة ، عن عبد الرحمن بن يزيد قال دخلت مع علقمة والأسود على عبد الله فقال عبد الله كنا مع النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم شبابا لا نجد شيئا فقال لنا رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يا معشر الشباب من استطاع الباءة فليتزوج فإنه أغض للبصر وأحصن للفرج ، ومن لم يستطع فعليه بالصوم فإنه له وجاء.