What should one do when one lies to his wife and commits oral sex?

Answered according to Hanafi Fiqh by Askimam.org

Husband and wife had oral sex, wife asked the husband “Is it not sin to do so?”. Husband lied and replied “No, it is not”. Although husband believes that it is a sin. Husband regrets and tells the truth to his wife, and repents. Now when husband said “No, it is not a sin”, Did he commited kufr? Do they have to renew their nikah?


In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh

The act in reference is immoral, evil and abhorred. The husband led his wife to commit an immoral act for which he should be shameful. He should make tauba from that immoral act and leading his wife to the immoral act.[i] However, the lie to commit such an immoral, evil and abhorred act does not lead one to kufr. The immoral act has weakened the persons Imaan. If he makes sincere tauba, his Imaan will once again be strengthened.

2] The nikah remains valid.

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Ridwaan Ibn Khalid Esmail [Kasak]

Student Darul Iftaa
Katete, Zambia  

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.



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الناشر: دار الكتب العلمية، بيروت – لبنان