My Mother Does Not Want Me to Read up on Death and Judgement Day – Is It Haram for Me to Disobey Her?

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil

Question: My mom doesn’t want me searching up things about Judgement Day and death. Is it haram for me to disobey her and educate myself on the Hereafter, death and Judgement Day?

Answer: Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

I pray this finds you well. May Allah reward you for having such sincere concern for your mother.

Obeying parents

No, it is not unlawful for you to disobey her by seeking out this critical knowledge. It is unlawful for you to disrespect or abuse her in the process.

It is important for you, as a Muslimah, to understand these matters which impact on your soul. Be tactful about your research because you know it upsets her i.e. don’t openly advertise what you are studying. Your duty as a daughter is to be kind to her, help her, and be respectful. You do not need to obey her if she calls you to something which will cause you spiritual, emotional or physical harm.

Continue to make dua for your mother.

Rights of parents

When registration re-opens, please enrol in The Rights of Parents to help you better understand the rights of your mother upon you.

May Allah guide you to what is most pleasing to Him.

Please refer to the following link:

Can I Pursue a Career That Goes Against My Parents’ Wishes?

Wassalam,
Raidah

Checked & Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani