I have been a very frustrated and angry recently. I know this married couple who have been married for few years and they’ve got three little children. The couple have been having marriage problems ever since marriage and the women in concern use to live with her in-laws. Although the guys parents never wanted the couple to be married but ever since the marriage the in-laws as well as her sister in-laws have been very problematic and have caused major issues. The guy himself isn’t a good person as not only does he womanise but he has beaten his wife up many times. The guy also gave his wife one talaq during the initial stage of marriage. The girl has come back to her parents house numerous times and she goes back to her in-laws as many promises are made to her.
Recently after an argument the guy became violent again and her father in law suggested that they have a divorce and that his son will re marry and that her father in law is going to call her father and will make sure that she leaves. The women didn’t want her parents involved and didn’t want them to be humiliated like that and she called the police and consequently the police took her back to her parents with her children which really hit the pride of her husband and in laws.
The young women never blamed her husband for anything but instead diverted all the blame to her in laws although many have advised that he is the problem!
While I was at the women’s parents house with her family I received a call from her husband accusing and threatening me of allsorts and he mentioned that he is going to bring a few people and wants a divorce from his wife. I said if you wanted a divorce you would of by now, he then said I gave her three talaqs last week and three talaqs half an hour ago over the phone, their were a few family members who listened to what he said as it was on loud speaker and the conversation was also recorded. We then asked the women who didn’t previously mention anything about any divorce and asked by number of people and she confirmed each time without any hesitation that she was given the 3 talaqs by him half an hour ago over the phone. Myself and the women’s brother then met three Scholars the very next day and explained everything and they confirmed that the marriage was over. I myself went to another 6 Scholars and again they confirmed that the divorce has taken place. The brother now has kind of changed his tone and is not really addressing the issue and what the scholars have said. The women herself does not agree that she has been divorced and keeps on saying that I don’t want a divorce and has changed her tone saying that she now thinks he might of gave two talaqs rather than three. She is also in regular conversation with her ex sister in laws who are advising that she is not divorced as three talaqs in anger constitutes as one. The guys uncle has got involved and is saying that these Maulanas make things up and if his nephew said talaq three times in anger then its not a divorce and that he thinks that the guy has got mental health problems although the guy has got no history of mental health issues. Her parents are not dealing with this issue at all and to clarify the issue they have not got any scholars involved and have allowed her to meet her ex husband through the guys uncle who is now pulling all the strings. This whole issue isn’t being challenged by anyone although she is still living with her parents she is in regular conversation and also meets her ex and as I understand that its been suggested that they move to their own house. I have mentioned to her that she is now divorced her older sister has also advised that she is now divorced but her parents are just ignoring what we are saying and isolating us from everything and are allowing her to do what ever she wishes and others to make judgement on this issue rather than scholars.
I’m frustrated, what do we do as they are living a life of sin and everyone’s in total denial.
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