Consulting the father

Q: Is there any specific injunction in the Quraan or Hadith that it is prefable to make mashura regarding affairs of daughters with the wife than the husband?


A: The Hadith teaches that before embarking on any important work, one should consult with one’s elders. Since the father is the most senior and the head of the family, he should be consulted and he should take the decision. It is a great misfortune that the father be left out and the decisions are made by the mother. The wife is also instructed in Deen to refer to the husband and not independently decide in any affair. Allah Ta’ala says in the Holy Qur’an:

الرِّ‌جَالُ قَوَّامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ بِمَا فَضَّلَ اللَّـهُ بَعْضَهُمْ عَلَىٰ بَعْضٍ (النساء : 34)

Men are the caretakers of women on account of the virtue Allah has given some over the others.

Hence we understand from this Aayat that the wife and children all should respect the father and refer to him in all matters.

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Zakaria Makada

Checked & Approved:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)