Q: I am a student and I am 22 years. Alhamdulilah I am a Muslim, but I am in a distant relationship with a Bosnian girl via Skype. I have promised her to marry her while I was putting my hand on the Quran, and since that day and I’m committing haram!(naked, kissing…) despite the distance between us. I am seduced. I know it is haram this kind of relationship and it is not like that to get married in Islam, I feel confused, I want repentance. Wallahi I regret everything. She is also Muslim. I thought her much good but also bad things and habits. I try to avoid her as much as possible this last months so that I don’t commit more sins, I seek solution for all this to stop. Wallahi I do not know how to do it. I don’t have the knowledge in Islam. I already asked a Sheikh but none answered me. I do not question Imams here because I want to be anonymous and I don’t want to unveil my sins because when Allah doesn’t unveil them, I mustn’t unveil them according to hadith. Tell me what to do, I have always loved and she loves me but I’m ready to leave her to earn Jannah and satisfaction of Allah but I certainly do not want to destroy and be responsible for her bewilderment or sadness.
A: Sincerely repent to Allah Ta’ala for the sins you have committed and make a firm resolve that you will not return to the sin in the future. If you are not married then you should get married. Refer to http://muftionline.co.za/node/4685
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Answered by:
Mufti Zakaria Makada
Checked & Approved:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)