Being involved in a haraam relationship

Q: I am a 37 year old woman and have been married for 18 years. I am not happy in my marriage and due to this I have pushed away my husband. We both live in one house like complete strangers. This has led me to have a relationship out of my marriage! I know this is gunaah but I have been with this man who I love dearly. I am stuck and feel very guilty for all that’s happened but I can’t leave this man. I feel I will die without him. This man has now married in my family with a close relative and says he will never leave me, but I know as well as you this is impossible. I feel stuck, hurt and upset. Please guide me. What should I do as I do not have any will power to walk away. I feel lost.


A: You either ask your husband to divorce and then marry the man that you like or leave the man and be loyal to your husband.

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)