Premarital relationship

Q: I have a question regarding nikaah. I have a friend. He likes a girl he met her over some matrimonial website. But not to stay in gunah they have asked their parents to make their nikah. Girl and boy are from India but from different states. Both girl and boy has asked their parents to make nikah, so all is well except the thing that girls mother isn’t agreeing as she is saying that we don’t marry any of our kids out of state as she is scared that girl will go so far from her and their will be no one to look after her from her family. Boys family is good and respectable one, but girls mother is full of negatives in mind that boys parents might harm the girl and all wrong what she can think. Now the girl is adamant in marrying that boy as he is deendar MASHAALLAH and girl also wants boy of this kind. Boy and girl both are much concerned about deendari of each other as they want to make nikah and want to work for deen by going in jamaat and best efforts what they can do. Girls parents are not much concerned about deendari and all for her son in law. So guide them what could be the best possible solution for this ? Early response will be appreciated.


A: It is impermissible for a na mahram boy and girl to be in contact. Therefore the boy and girl should sincerely repent to Allah Ta’ala for getting involved in the sin and make a firm resolve that they will never repeat it in the future. If the girls parents are not happy to get their daughter married to the boy, then the boy should not pursue this matter. 

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Zakaria Makada

Checked & Approved:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)