Q: My question is about whether I can have a secret nikaah with a man that loves me dearly but is afraid of Allah just like me. We’re aware that we can’t stay in a haram relationship so we decided to make nikaah. We cannot do it the normal way because his parents and my wali which is my father are not agreeing because of race and materialism. We are adults and we know that we’re wanting the right thing. We don’t want to displease our parents but we have to because displeasing Allah is worse. Is it the nikaah valid and what is the process of doing this kind of nikaah? Can we keep this nikaah as a secret for 2/3 years until this man is settled and has a better financial position to please my father in the future?
A: In matters concerning marriage etc. one should only take decisions after consulting one’s elders. Taking decisions independently in such matters has serious repercussions and consequences in the future.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.