Providing a separate kitchen and dwelling for the wife

Q: What are the rights of mother and wife? I have been married for 6 years with two kids and my wife has problems with my mothers hold on the kitchen. After every 6 months she has an hunger strike to get her demands met. This time I am getting her a separate accommodation because of quarrel between sister and mother. Despite having a big house where I can get her separated on the upper portion she is not willing to live. I have to spend all my earnings for separate accommodation. I have lived 6 years with her cursing my family and me. She does not respect me in front of my family and her family at times. The only reason I am bearing all this because Allah Ta’ala dislikes divorce and I have two daughters aged 4 and 2 years and what I do today will reflect on their life? I may not be a good husband by not listening to her concerns but I didn’t like one thing that she never prayed or offered salat. I do not have mental peace and because I do not have a nature to be aggressive my marriage is in ruins because of my family and wife. Need a sincere advise and dua whereby we all can live in harmony.


A: In numerous situations the mother and wife are not compatible, though they may be pious and good. Otherwise in these types of situations it is better that the wife has her own kitchen and her own privacy. This brings about better understanding and love between both, rather than forcing them to remain together when they do not seem to be compatible.

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)