Asking family member for forgiveness before going for Hajj

Q: I have two close relatives. Actually very close. One of them fought with me and insulted my husband very badly, his wife and kids were involved in it. At that time we were staying at their house while visiting from another country. The next day the couple apologised to me as they were my relatives. We both forgave them. When we came to our home, he then called me via phone brought up the same topic and started screaming and yelling at me in a very insolent way. I hung up the phone then he wrote an email sent it to all my siblings and said very insulting and awful things about me and my kids, all my siblings were shocked that he talked to me in such a bad manner through email. We have not talked to each other since over one year and he is 10 years younger than me, same kind of situation happened between his sister and I. This year InshaAllah I am going for Hajj along with my husband. Some one said I should call and talk to him, I did not do anything wrong. It’s them who really hurt my feelings along with my husband’s within this period of one year. I have been hearing that he has been rubbish talking about me. Will our Hajj be qubool if we don’t call him or God forbid not. Will you please guide us?


A: You do not have to call them. You can just message them. May Allah Ta`ala grant you a maqbool hajj.

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)