Befriending kuffaar

Q: I have a best friend whom I hurt very badly because of a male friend. She feels hurt and we don’t have the same relationship which we used to have before. She is also a non Muslim. What should I do? Even if I try to sort it out I don’t think she will forgive me. Should I leave it or sort it out? What is the solution according to Islam? Please help me out.


A: Refrain from associating and befriending kuffaar. We have been strictly prohibited in the Qur’an from taking the kuffaar as close associates and friends. Through associating with the kuffaar one will certainly begin to compromise in his Deen and adopt their ways and culture. Allah Ta’ala says:

يـٰأَيُّهَا الَّذينَ ءامَنوا لا تَتَّخِذُوا الكـٰفِرينَ أَولِياءَ مِن دونِ المُؤمِنينَ ﴿النساء: ١٤٤﴾

O you who believe, do not take the disbelievers as bosom friends instead of the believers.

يـٰأَيُّهَا الَّذينَ ءامَنوا لا تَتَّخِذُوا اليَهودَ وَالنَّصـٰرىٰ أَولِياءَ بَعضُهُم أَولِياءُ بَعضٍ وَمَن يَتَوَلَّهُم مِنكُم فَإِنَّهُ مِنهُم إِنَّ اللَّـهَ لا يَهدِى القَومَ الظّـٰلِمينَ ﴿المائدة:٥١﴾

O you who believe, do not take the Jews and Christians as bosom friends. They are part of each other. The one who befriends them will be counted from amongst them. Allah Ta’ala does not guide those who are unjust.

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Zakaria Makada

Checked & Approved:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)