Marital problems

Q: I am my husbands second wife. We married 9/10 years ago without anyones knowledge i.e my family. He promised and swore he would ask for my hand in marriage after his visa issues were resolved. Alhamdulillah last year July he got his visa issues resolved after nearly 12 years, he went back home to see first wife, I accepted all this but now its time for him to accept me with my families knowledge and he won’t. His sister and brother in law have also tried talking to him telling him he is oppressing me and doing injustice with me as he has kept me waiting 11 years. Please could you give me some Dua I can make for my husband to treat me right and also accept me properly Islamically. We live 5 hours away. Whenever I have met him and spoke to him on his face he has reassured me and then when I leave he cuts everyone out, no one is sure why he is doing this. He has told me and his sister he loves me. Is this shaitan stopping him doing the right thing? He is not active in prayers but does pray Jumma. Please advise what I can pray or which dua I can make for my husband?


A: After ishraaq beg Allah Ta`ala’s assistance and recite ‘Yaa Hayyu yaa Qayyoom 7 x when making du`aa. Ensure that you perform all your namaaz on time.

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)