Marital and domestic problems

Q: I really like someone. Intially when I introduced him at home everyone agreed and our wedding date was all fixed. There was a delay of six months in our marriage and since we used to see each other frequently and to stay away from gunah we got our nikkah done in a gathering of our close friends in a mosque. None of our family members were part of our nikkah. Later we came back to pakistan so we can officially get married. My finance had a robbery at there home and he requested my dad to help him if he can and it will be a loan on him he has an investment back in canada and will return the money. On the other hand my dad took it in a way that he had demanded money and didn’t
even let him explain not even once and broke the marriage 10 days before the wedding. After that my dad used his resources to shut him and his family up and wants me to marry some one else. Now some people are saying that our nikkah is not valid because there was no wali in that nikah. I know I should have not done the nikah but I really want to stay with him and I am quiet because I know my father will never ever agree on this. He even said that even if I take a stand he would not agree and he was against this marriage since day one but was not showing it to me because I wanted it. Can you please shed some light on this matter and help me in this regard?

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A: We prefer a course that is free of disputes, arguments and bickering. If there is no way that your father gets to accept this person and your father threatens to take drastic steps then it is better that the marriage be ended.

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.

 

Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)