Disregarding the comments of people

Q: I’m a 21 year old female. I have always been extremely skinny and when I reached the age of puberty, I started to get bullied because I remained on the skinny side and didn’t develop a chest. The bullying got so bad I started to fill my bra. I did not realize at the time how this may affect me later but it has gotten to the point where if I do not fill my bra, it is very noticeably different. This problem has emotionally and psychologically scared me for the longest time. Everyone I know always comments about how I look like a 12 year old kid (even with the fake chest) and it tears me apart. This “fake chest” is the only way I feel my age. I do not want to face being humiliated if I stop filling my bra by my family, relatives and friends and was considering breast enlargement. As I see it right now, my only options are either surgery or continuing filling my bra. Please advise.


A: We do not advise you to go for surgery. Keep Allah Ta`ala in mind, and Allah Ta`ala will take care of you. People’s impressions can be swayed by any insignificant thing, so don’t go with people’s impressions and thoughts, rather keep Allah Ta`ala in mind. This will guard you from people’s comments and interference.

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)