Honouring one’s promises

Q: My husband promised me that if I allow him to marry a second wife he will buy me my own house. We are living with his parents for the past 8 years. I accepted it because I knew that nothing is going to stop him from wanting a second wife and I have lived in his parents house for long a home of our own is something we dreamed of a long time. We started looking at houses same time he was looking for a wife. Any way he got married and after some time he told me that a Moulana told him he can’t buy a house for me because if he does he has to buy the same kind of house for his second wife even if she doesn’t need it she can rent it out. I know all about equality between wives etc but this promise was made to me before he married her. She has her own apartment which her father bought for her after her divorce. I feel cheated I feel very very very cheated. I don’t think our Allah is a oppressor and I feel very oppressed right now. I share a room with my 4 kids. It’s not fair on me this can’t be fair.


A: Your husband is dishonest. He needs to be truthful and honour his promises.

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا أَوْفُوا بِالْعُقُودِ ۚ أُحِلَّتْ لَكُمْ بَهِيمَةُ الْأَنْعَامِ إِلَّا مَا يُتْلَىٰ عَلَيْكُمْ غَيْرَ مُحِلِّي الصَّيْدِ وَأَنْتُمْ حُرُمٌ ۗ إِنَّ اللَّـهَ يَحْكُمُ مَا يُرِيدُ ﴿المائدة:١﴾

Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)