Q: I have been trying to get a clear answer for a proposal and it is my habit that I generally make the istikhara dua every now and then without intending to see a dream. This time I tried a few times with the intention of dreaming or some sign. Before I ask, I want to know that when we are sleeping and dreaming many dreams, how do we know that which one is our indication? Is it all of them combined or just something that we remember? Also I couldn’t sleep right away but in the morning, maybe due to the anxiety. Anyway the first time I saw many dreams as usual, but remembered making and eating white sweet dish but then I also saw a relative in black clothes and
dried blood which startled me. Then the next time I hardly saw much, just that my parents were not letting me go to the man. The third time I saw that I was in a shop and then I remember coming home and in my bedroom to sleep, with a white cloth blowing over my bed. At that time my little sister comes to tell me that these are the clothes that I selected and on a piece of paper it was written “white and purple velvet (dark)”. I was thoroughly confused by such mixed signals and then the very next day I had a proper dream, though I didn’t make the istakhara dua. In that dream I am on the roof with my family and the sky turns from clear blue to dark black clouds in a second. Then I see that the man is sitting with the men of the family, I can hear them laughing and my female relatives are smiling down at me and when they make me join their room we both look at each other happily. But later my mother receives a call from my father, rejecting the proposal and I am devastated in the dream. Please tell me what you can make out of this since I think it has both good and bad in it. Also my dreams were in the dark as well, it always appeared to be night.
A: Don’t pay so much of importance to the dream. Rather consult your parents if the boy who has proposed is conscious of his Deen, has a good akhlaaq (character) and understanding and you as well as your parents are happy with his ways and habits, then with the consultation of your parents and family elders you may accept the proposal.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.