Solution for those in despair and helplessness

Q: Please pray for me and give me guidance. My soul is so lost and broken. I am a sinful Muslim and have committed many sins against Allah. And now I realise the errors of my ways. I am in a very bad place and don’t know how to gain my self respect back. I am in love with a man that does not love me, we are not married but were at one point intimate friends and hoped to be married. But things changed and he stopped loving me. However since then we have just been friends. Me being in the hope that he would realise that I love him much and he would marry me. However all this man has done is to take advantage of my feelings play with my emotions and leave me feeling like a worthless human taking advantage of my kindness. I know I probably deserve what I am getting now. But I am so sad and in despair. I need some help and support and don’t know what to do. My situation is so bad I have been humiliated and shamed by him through the way he speaks to me and the things he does and how he constantly toys with my emotions. I need help please advise me on how I can get it together and loose the love of this man from my heart for I have tried for 10 years or more. He will not leave me alone always calling me and manipulating me and I am weak and always fall for his traps and he uses my friendship to make fun of me for amusement. Yet I can’t fight this or see this for what it is. Please give me a prayer or wazifa. I know my request is shameful but I have no one to turn to.


A: ​Try to initiate the following daily programme in the home:

  1. Conduct ta`leem of Fazaa’il-e-Sadaqaat, Fazaa’il-e-A`maal and Baishti Zewar for approximately 15 minutes in the mornings and evenings.
  2. Recite some portion of the Qur’aan.
  3. Do zikr of the kalimah, Durood Shareef and istighfaar.
  4. Make a collective du`aa at the end of each session, begging Allah Ta`ala for His special help, mercy and forgiveness for oneself and the rest of the ummat.

​​Together with the above, avoid all types of doubtful and impermissible company, people, places etc.

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.

Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)