Consulting the parents with regards to nikaah

Q: My friend and I like each other and we want to make nikaah so that we can have a halaal relationship and not be boy friend and girlfriend. His parents said that they want to come home to speak to my parents about us making nikaah. My parents don’t want us to make nikaah and they threaten me to stop wanting to marry him or else they will force me to marry some one else or they will hit him. I really want my relationship to be halaal and I wanat to make nikaah. What should I do? Will it be wrong if I make nikaah without my parents consent?


A: It is extremely important for a girl to consult her parents in the issue of nikaah. It is totally incorrect and unislamic for her to independently choose her spouse and perform the nikaah.   

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Zakaria Makada

Checked & Approved:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)