Physical and Mental Abuse
Q: Is it right for a husband to abuse his wife mentally and physically? I’m married for 11 years and I’m a revert to Islam. In my first year of marriage my husband had an affair and would practically torture me for the other women. After that he left her and everything was fine. I’ve supported him morally but my husband doesn’t appreciate anything I do. He beats me and swears me in front of my kids although my kids tell him to stop he swears them as well.Is this Islam? I’ve accepted Islam from the day my husband asked me to marry him but I didn’t expect this to happen.
A: Do not confuse a Muslim’s personal actions with Islam. You are well aware that Islam totally condemns such actions. His actions are completely against the teachings of Islam. Islam never ever condones such cowardice and vile actions. He needs to sort himself out by linking to a pious scholar and rectifying his ways. Ask the Islamic scholars in your area to speak to him and make him realise the evil of such actions. If he does not change, seek forgiveness and improve his ways, he will face Allah with a very heavy burden.
May Allah Ta’aala grant realization, Aameen.
Moulana Yusuf Laher