Definition of Beating
Q: Please explain the term beat lightly in regards to wife from Quran and hadith.
A: The hadith states that when the wife disobeys her husband then he can beat her by making a knot on the edge of his shawl and then tapping her lightly with this part of the shawl. But violent or severe beating is haraam and not allowed. A wife who disobeys her husband for no valid reason is cursed by Almighty Allah, and if she dies without taubah and without pleasing her husband, she will be deprived of Allah’s Mercy on the Day of Judgment.
Mufti Siraj Desai