Q: I am married now for 15 years and have two sons. Due to ongoing arguments between us because of my wife’s past I want to take time to figure out my thoughts. I don’t want to divorce her but heard that if you separate for more than three months the nikkah (marriage) breaks. What is the allowed period of time we can separate? I have no intention to divorce her I just need time to gather my thoughts and calm my mind.
A: A separation of any amount of time does not break the Nikah, even if it is years.
Suggestion: Mutually agree to a stipulated amount of time.
Ensure that all their needs are fulfilled during your separation.
Keep a check on their well-being.
May Allah Ta’aala grant reconciliation, harmony and understanding, Aameen.
Moulana Yusuf Laher