In some traditional societies, bride or groom do not have a say in their marriages. Their parents choose bride or groom based on economic or status consideration of the other party concerned. Ilm of neither the bride or groom is taken into consideration. No consideration is given for the feelings of bride or groom. A few married men disappointed with marriage resort to extra-marital affairs. A few married women unhappy with their husband run away with their lovers. Majority of those dissatisfied with their marriage still stay in their marriage due to fear of shame arising out of their act and lead a false life. In some communities we are forced to put on a false face.
Assalaamu Álaykum Wa Rahmatullaahi Wa Barakaatuhu
Knowing the importance and sacredness of a marriage commitment, the boy and
girl having consulted with their seniors and making Istikhaara, should make
their own independent choice.
They should not be compelled to marry against their wishes as the
consequences (non-compatibility, divorce, disputes, custody of children,
etc.) are too ghastly to bear. Parents should not compel their children to
marry against their wishes due to economic status reasons.
And Allah Taãla Knows Best.
Was salaam
Mufti Ebrahim Desai